Everyone has a vice that makes there stomach flip, worry about what might happen or what might not happen. Everything else in your life can be going swimmingly but you end up losing sleeping over that one area of your life that's not going as you planned. To quote Carrie Bradshaw 'everyone is either looking for a job, apartment or a partner' and when one of those areas is less than perfect we focus on the bad and pick ourselves apart.
Taking that one area and overthinking, can cause so much stress to yourself. Everyone has fallen victim to it at some point. At the moment I am having pure worry pangs about my career from the workload to where I see myself in the next couple of years. Even though I'm at an all time high within my design job, I have moments of thinking where do I go from here and is this really for me? Sometimes the self doubt can be crippling. It's at it's highest when I feel over-worked, over-tired and hangry leaving me feeling overwhelmed and quite vulnerable.
I know it's just a frame of mind and that I am actually a happy person. It's just after a long day at work I struggle massively to see the positive outlook on life. I also know I'm not the only one that suffers from this kind of anxiety. I've been following a few steps to ensure I get my positive attitude back.
Taking yourself out of the situation. This one is far easier said than done but it's a step I've been following for a while where work is concerned. It's making myself leave work at work, once I've finished a task I physically and mental leave it at work. Walking out that door knowing you can only do so much and leaving all the stresses at work then focusing my full attention on Bernard and Joe and having a relaxing evening.
After leaving the stresses the next thing that I find helps me is hashing it out with a friend who wants to listen. By voicing your worries to someone you start to realise you were overthinking a situation and helps you put life into perspective.
Sleeping on it really helps any situation for me. When I'm over tired I start conjuring up all different scenarios, making myself more worked up. I will then sleep on it and wake up the next morning feeling refreshed about my problems and ready to face them.
One of the best ways I find to forget any worries I may have is to exercise. Having a morning workout routine sets me up for the day. Working out makes me focus on the task in hand and helps relieve me of any stresses from the night before. Plus if I workout in the morning I tend to eat right for the rest of the day, which in turn helps ease any anxiety I may have.
The last one is simple but works every time for me.. I enjoy a cup of green tea. Before I have a cuppa I can be a grumpy bitch and have a real pessimistic view. I know this might not work for everyone and can make some people’s anxieties worse but for me a little boost of caffeine in the morning brings my energy levels up and gives me confidence to tackle anything that's thrown at me.
I would love to know if like me you also overthink situations, making them seem bigger problems than they actually are? How do you go about soothing your self-doubt? Let me know below.
If you would like to read more on anxiety and where to receive support on this visit: www.mind.org.uk
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